Improper speech (Loshon HoRah) then, is considered a most heinous sin in the ranks of the observant orthodox jew. This, mostly naturally, pertains mostly to speaking ill of someone. The idea being that while physical wounds can harm for a while, they will invariably heal. Remedying the cruelty done by an innapropriate and unkind word is that much harder to to manage.
I talk too much. About people.
I mean, I know that. But I just love people. They are what I love. What I think about. I question them and survey them and want to understand them more and wish we all didn't have so many boundaries and communication issues and so much damn pride that gets in the way of knowing eachother.
I wish we weren't all so easily embarassed. Also, I often wish it weren't so hard. That we didn't do so many things best left undiscussed, best left unsaid.
But also I go too far and I know that.
Integral to the laws around Loshon HoRah is the notion that we don't know what will be taken wrong, that we wont always know context, well enough, to know what is speaking ill vs. just speaking of. So it's encouraged to never speak of another, or atleast another's personal life, when they are not present.
We all know I don't have a chance in hell of doing that. I don't know that I'd even want to try. But something needs to be done. And I think I know the obvious place to start...